I asked Dustin

Hun, can you specifically tell me, specifically what you would like me to work harder at?

To believe that everything is okay.  To look at how far you've come.  When you look at where you want to be, look at where you were.  To know that we're a family, and we're living in California, and we love each other.  When you feel anxious about your feelings, look at all the positive changes inside yourself.  We're nowhere near where we were half a year ago.  If you look at any one thing, your sexuality, the things you've learned, the things we do, you've changed so much.

I can definitely handle that.  I can more than handle that.  it's fine with me.