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yeah, my mom gets very fearful.  I think that preventative living is part of the distinction between living in fear and living for life itself.  if someone lives in fear, they are living for their thoughts that do not exist, because their thoughts are focused on a happening in the future which is not the actual action which the person can participation in... whereas what someone living for life is thinking is the exact thing that they end up doing with that thought.  Living for life itself is really simple in that way.  Living in fear, you are always second guessing your actions, because you are not sure which thing will prevent the actual thing you are thinking about.  Whereas, if you are thinking about something you are not afraid of, and would like to do, you end up doing just that.  It isn't the anxiety necessarily that is sterilizing or paralyzing to life.  It is not following your dreams, or following the thing that you want to do- very simply.  Living for life means that you aren't really second guessing, you are just listening to that little voice telling you what to do.  The little voice that tells you to do something from fear always has a second event connected with it.  You must do this, because this may happen.  Nothing wrong with doing preventative things, or doing things to prevent death, ill health, future problems.  But more importantly for life satisfaction and depth, one should strive to listen to the little voice that tells you to do something- just because.  Just because it is worthwhile to do, and the thing you do is the one and only thought that you have related to it.

I think that preventative living is part of the distinction between living in fear and living for life itself. if someone lives in fear, they are living for their thoughts that do not exist, because their thoughts are focused on a happening in the future which is not the actual action which the person can participation in... whereas what someone living for life is thinking is the exact thing that they end up doing with that thought. Living for life itself is really simple in that way. Living in fear, you are always second guessing your actions, because you are not sure which thing will prevent the second connected thing you are thinking about. Whereas, if you are thinking about something you are not afraid of, and would like to do, you end up doing just that, and it is satisfying because you are participating in your own thoughts. Performing an action which is meant for a second, future fearful thought disconnects your thoughts from your action. You cease to exist for those few moments, and you lose the satisfaction of experiencing that moment. These moments of thinking a future fear and completing an action that is not the fear but a separate action create dissonance, and add up. >>>>> It isn't the anxiety necessarily that is sterilizing or paralyzing to life. It is not following your dreams, or following the thing that you want to do- very simply. <<<<< Living for life means that you aren't really second guessing, you are just listening to that little voice telling you what to do. The little voice that tells you to do something from fear always has a second event connected with it. Nothing wrong with doing preventative things, or doing things to prevent death, ill health, future problems. We do end up finding face value in things we want to do from things that we have feared in the past. But at some point, life cannot be about preventing things that occurred in the past. We need to find face value in things, for themselves in order to find satisfaction of them in the moment. More importantly than prevention, for life satisfaction and depth, one should strive to listen to the little voice that tells you to do something- just because. Just because it is worthwhile to do, and the thing you do is the one and only thought that you have related to it. When you drop the crap of if's but's can'ts couldn'ts, and simply say in your head what that voice wants you to do "just because", and then you get up, and do it, and do other things that you have to do to get there, all in the spirit of doing the thing that your little voice wants to, you will realize the world is alright and you will find yourself participating in your life.